When you are in a long-term, committed relationship, it can be so easy to fall into the trap of not bothering to make any effort and just assuming that your relationship will survive.
After 4 years of being together, and living together for 2 years, my partner and I can hold our hands up and say we are definitely guilty of neglecting each other in favour of the more routine and mundane things that need/have to be done, like food shopping and household chores.
When we first got together, we spent every weekend together, enjoying little nights away and days out together, and like most new couples, we spent all of our time together, just the 2 of us – not worrying about anything other than each other. When we decided to move in together and buy our house, over a period of time, our relationship shifted – we didn’t seem to spend so much time on each other, and spent more time sorting out the house and those other routine things that have to be done when you have your own home.
We decided to put Date Nights back into our relationship – one night a week where its just us – no phones, no chores – sometimes we will go out for dinner, or to the cinema, sometimes we just stay in, cook dinner together and snuggle up on the sofa and watch a good movie together. Its not really about what we do, more about the fact we are spending quality time together.
It can be so easy for relationships to lose their spark, and you start taking each other for granted, but just taking one night out each week to spend together will remind you of why you love each other, and at the end of the day, that is what matters.