Why do we struggle accepting a Compliment?

Ok, so something pretty mega happened today – when I tell you what happened, you will all be sat there thinking ‘what the heck is she going on about?’
Well, it is pretty mega for me. My boyfriend told me I looked really pretty in a new dress that I was wearing, and do you know what I did? I simply said ‘Thank you’
There was no ‘but my hair is a mess, and the dress is too tight’ – I just said Thank you.
Normally, I really struggle with compliments – I bat them away with an off-hand comment, as I always feel that the compliment is not genuine. Is that just me who feels like that, or do other people really struggle accepting a compliment? And does it matter who the compliment comes from?
I have recently lost over 5 stone following the Slimming World plan, and through this my own self-confidence has increased a lot more – have a read of my post all about my self-confidence here. Before losing the weight, my self-confidence was so low – I hated the way I looked, always tried to blend into the crowd, and if someone looked at me, I immediately assumed that they were talking about the way I looked (and not in a good way!)
I have received so many comments compliments recently about how good I am looking now I have lost some weight, but when I look in the mirror at the moment, I just cant see that I look any different (just to fill you in, in case you think I am barmy thinking I have lost 5 stone and cant see a difference in how I look – I have a lot of weight to lose overall), but I am feeling a lot more confident in myself, so although I cant see the difference myself, other people are noticing a difference in me, and they are complimenting me on this.
I now feel in myself that I am able to accept these compliments with a simple ‘Thank You’ rather than, I guess, having to justify in my own mind why people are saying nice things to me when they aren’t true (oh the mind likes to play funny tricks on us sometimes, doesn’t it?
Why is it, that on the whole, we are really bad at just accepting a compliment for what it is – someone saying something nice about us that is true?
Do you struggle to accept a compliment? Or, do you love having compliments made about you? Let me know in the comments.


  1. 11/06/2017 / 7:42 am

    I do struggle with accepting compliments on face value because I tend to think they're note genuine as well, but I think that's all down to a confidence thing.

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

  2. 11/06/2017 / 8:18 pm

    Thank you for your comment Julia – I think it is a confidence thing with me too x

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